In My Own Words

Up “Schitt’s Creek”

Like a lot of us who are following the rules and staying home, I have been indulging in a lot more television than I normally would. Yesterday I finished the incredibly funny and amazingly heartwarming series “Schitt’s Creek” (I promise, no spoilers). The premise of the show is an extremely wealthy family who loses everything except each other and how they grow as people and as a family.

PictureOne of the reasons I was able to relate to the show is due to my own missteps and losses that ultimately brought me to my “right path” in life. While it would make the journey less scary to know the ending from the get-go, reality is that the hard and uncertain times are what force us to challenge ourselves to decide who we really want to be. Through my hurdles in life I have learned I am a survivor, I am a helper, I am resourceful and I am a leader. Once upon a time, I saw myself as weak. Had I not gone through hard times and loss, I would have never learned what I was truly capable of. 

Right now loss and uncertainty is universal. For some of us it is the loss of our familiar routine, while others are facing more dire and immediate losses, such as income and food security. Processing what has been taken away from you, even if it may appear minor in light of what others are facing, is ok. This is not a time for comparison, but compassion. That means compassion for yourself as well as for others. Don’t beat yourself up for staying in your pajamas all day and not getting that bathroom cleaned. Sometimes our minds need our bodies to slow down so they can process this new reality. Give yourself permission to just be.

If you are able to help others, that is great. There is a need for blood donation. I have donated a few times since this began and can tell you that Vitalant is doing a great job controlling the number of people in there at a time and taking precautions to ensure safety and health. Food banks are in need of food or monetary donations to help the thousands of people coming out for assistance. Support your small local businesses by ordering take out or buying gift certificates for future services.

These are just the obvious ways to help, though. There are a lot of people without money or who can’t leave the house that may feel like they can’t help anyone. However, that friend that you talked through an anxiety attack last week, or the neighbor you text just to check-in, that is helping too. Pictures and teddy bears in your window. A phone call to a loved one. A prayer for all of us. 

In this time of swirling confusion, one thing I am certain of is your ability to grow in this moment, whatever that growth may look like for you. Whether it be through acceptance or action, pajamas or protective masks, asking for help or asking how you can help – you are going to get through this. Yes, perhaps we are all up “Schitt’s Creek” to some degree right now, but you are not in that canoe alone. Stay strong and keep on paddling.